Heather Rawson

I did no-contact for 62 days. His response was ONE word.

If you've done no-contact and he still hasn't reached out I'm writing this for you… If you've gone to therapy, worked on yourself, read every article, done everything everyone told you to do and he's STILL gone… keep reading. Because I was exactly where you are about seven months ago, and nobody told me what I'm about to tell you. My name is Sarah. I'm 41. He left in March. We were together nine years… He didn't cheat or anything… He just came home one day and said he needed space. So I gave him space. I did everything I was supposed to do. I went no-contact. Lasted 62 days. Sixty-two days of not texting him, not calling him, not driving past his place. My therapist said it would work… That he'd miss me and come back on his own. He didn't come back. After 62 days, I broke and sent him a text that said "I miss you. I hope you're OK." He replied four hours later, and all he said was "Thanks." That was it. Sixty-two days of suffering for "thanks." So I went harder on therapy… Twice a week. My therapist kept telling me to focus on myself… Journal… set intentions… learn to be happy alone, and the right energy would draw him back. I did all of it. Every single thing she told me to do. Four months in… And he was still gone… Hadn't reached out once. My therapist said I was making amazing progress. Progress at what? He was still gone. I tried manifesting… scripting every morning… candles… crystals… Nothing. I even paid a relationship coach $400 for a 90-minute session… She told me to "raise my vibration" and "become the best version of myself so he can't resist coming back." I said I've been doing that for six months and he hasn't come back. She said "Trust the process." And he hadn't moved one inch. But the thing that really got to me was watching it happen to someone else at the same time… My coworker Ashley went through almost the same thing… her boyfriend of six years left her for a younger woman. She was a complete wreck. And Ashley did everything right too… more than me honestly. No-contact. Therapy. Four books on attachment theory. Lost 20 pounds. Changed her whole look. Support group. Started dating again. Fifteen months of all of it. Then she found out he was engaged to the other woman. Then he got married. Ashley cried at her desk on a Tuesday afternoon and I sat there with her and couldn't say anything because I knew that was going to be me. Fifteen months of doing everything right… and he married someone else. I kept thinking about Ashley… Because I was doing the exact same things and getting nothing back… Not a text, not a call, nothing. Six months and not one sign that any of it was reaching him. And then about three weeks later… My friend Emily told me something that I honestly haven't been able to stop thinking about since… Emily went through the same thing two years ago. He ghosted her after three years together. She was a wreck. But when I saw Emily at this birthday dinner… she brought him. The same guy. And he was all over her. I pulled her aside and said OK you need to tell me what happened. She said she tried everything I was trying. No-contact. Therapy. All of it. None of it worked. Same as me. Same as Ashley. And then she said something that stopped me cold… "None of it worked because none of it had anything to do with why he actually left." I said “what do you mean?” She said… "Every piece of advice out there treats all men the same. Do no-contact. Work on yourself. Raise your vibration. It's all the same script. But he didn't leave because of anything on that script. He left because of his sign. And until I figured that out nothing was ever going to bring him back." I told Emily that doesn't make any sense. She said… "I know. But you did no-contact for 62 days and he didn't come back. Ashley did everything right for fifteen months and he married someone else. So maybe the problem isn't that you're not trying hard enough. Maybe none of what you're trying was built for this situation." I just sat there quiet… because she was right. She told me about this quiz she'd found… from a Romanian woman who does a very specific kind of love spell. One that's based on his exact zodiac sign. Emily said she thought it was insane when she first saw it… But she was six months deep into the same cycle I was in and nothing was working… So she took it. It asked for his sign and a few questions about the relationship. And 11 days later he texted her out of nowhere… Not some short text… A long message at midnight about how he'd been thinking about her constantly and didn't know how to reach out. They've been back together ever since… That was two years ago… He proposed in January this year. I was sitting there listening to this and part of me thought she'd lost her mind… A love spell based on his zodiac sign? Come on. But she was right there with him. Happy. And I was six months deep into every piece of advice that exists and had absolutely nothing to show for it. So I took the quiz that night at Emily's house. I figured if nothing else has worked in six months what's this going to cost me anyway… First few days nothing happened… Day 6 he watched my Instagram story. He hadn't looked at any of my stuff in months. Day 8 I got a text from a number I almost didn't recognize because I'd deleted his contact during no-contact. It said "I know this is random. I've been wanting to reach out for a while. Can we talk?" I sat there reading that text and my hands were shaking… Six months of no-contact and therapy and manifesting and that $400 coaching session didn't get me that text… … and a 1-question quiz did. I don't know what to tell you. I know how that sounds. We met for coffee the next day… He talked for two hours straight… He said leaving was the worst thing he'd ever done and that he thought about me every day… He said he didn't reach out because he thought I'd moved on and didn't want him anymore… I almost laughed because the whole point of no-contact is to make him miss you and it literally did the opposite… Six months of it and he thought I was gone for good. That was five months ago. He moved back in three months ago. Last week… He told my mom he's looking at rings. And every time I think about Ashley… I get this knot in my stomach… Because the only thing different about what I did vs what Ashley did was that quiz… Ashley did everything right for fifteen months and lost him forever… I took a quiz on my friend's couch and he was texting me 11 days later. Look… I don't know your situation. But if you've been doing no-contact and it's not working… If you've been going to therapy and focusing on yourself and nothing is changing… If you're watching the weeks turn into months and he's still not reaching out… Maybe the problem isn't that you're not trying hard enough… Maybe none of what you're trying was ever going to work on him specifically… I've linked it below. It's one question. That's all it took for me. After six months of nothing. https://www.zodiaclovespell.com/zodiac-quiz-man-sign